Frequently Asked Questions

Hello, I’m Philip Lingle, Founder, Director, & Head Officiant of Love & Wisdom Inc. I have one of the best jobs in the world because I get to help couples create the wedding day experience of their dreams and achieve a happy and lasting marriage! It is very rewarding for me to contribute to people’s lives in such a positive way. I have provided some answers to frequently asked questions below, please let me know if I can answer any other questions that you have.

Frequently Asked Questions

Hello, I’m Philip Lingle, Founder, Director, & Head Officiant of Love & Wisdom Inc. I have one of the best jobs in the world because I get to help couples create the wedding day experience of their dreams and achieve a happy and lasting marriage! It is very rewarding for me to contribute to people’s lives in such a positive way. I have provided some answers to frequently asked questions below, please let me know if I can answer any other questions that you have.

How do you say that word??

Oh-fish-ee-ant

Not many people use the term “officiant” on a daily basis, so don’t feel bad if you didn’t know how to pronounce it. It simply refers to the “official person” who performs (or officiates) a ceremony.

Some people incorrectly use the term “officiate,” which is a verb, not a noun.

How old are you?

I’m 48, and my devotion to a healthy lifestyle keeps me looking and feeling young. I avoid processed foods, exercise regularly, and constantly strive for balance in all areas of my life.

Do I get to choose my wedding officiant?

 

 

You are welcome to request a particular officiant, but we often have limited availability. Based on your needs, including your wedding style, ceremony date, and availability, you will be matched with one of our outstanding officiants who perform weddings for Love & Wisdom Inc. You will have an opportunity to meet your potential officiant, either in-person, by phone, or video chat, to make sure that you are the right fit for each other. The highly qualified officiants of Love & Wisdom Inc. have been carefully chosen based on their experience, background, and positive energy.

Do you have anyone to fill in if there’s an emergency?

Always! Not only do we have over a dozen officiants at Love & Wisdom Inc., but we also maintain great relationships with other officiants in the area. We always have at least one officiant on call just in case there is an emergency. We take your wedding day experience very seriously, so it is important to have this plan in place for everyone’s peace of mind.

What is your religion?

I believe there are many paths to spiritual fulfillment. I experienced my own spiritual awakening through the study of Philosophy. Although I was raised Lutheran, I am no longer affiliated with any particular religious denomination. I am ordained as a Humanist Celebrant and I recognize that there is truth and wisdom within every religion, but I don’t believe that there is “one true way.” I’m always open to discussing matters of spirituality, and I enjoy hearing other perspectives.

Do you perform religious ceremonies?

Although we specialize in non-religious ceremonies, we do often incorporate religious elements. We also work with a lot of interfaith couples who have different religious traditions on either side. We work closely with them to ensure that the ceremony respects both of their families and traditions, while also being a genuine reflection of who the couple is. Striking the right balance is very important to us.

Do you officiate same-sex ceremonies?

Yes, we proudly support marriage equality and are honored to be able to legally marry same-sex couples. We view this new legislation as a victory for human rights and social justice!

What the difference between the Signature & Custom Ceremonies?

Our Signature Ceremony is a beautiful non-customized ceremony which focuses on the true meaning of genuine love, your connection as a couple, and the commitment that you are making to one another. It has a fairly traditional structure, with some modern touches, and you would have your choice of a non-religious ceremony, or a ceremony with a few religious elements, including a prayer, bible verse, and blessing. It wouldn’t mention how you met, or any specific things that you like about one another. Nor does it include any special elements like a unity candle, handfasting, or beer blending (yes, we actually do a beer blending ceremony!). With that being said, we do provide you with various options for your vows, as well as samples and instructions for writing your own vows if you would like to add a personal touch.

For our Customized Ceremony, we would send you a questionnaire to get a little more in-depth information about who you are as a couple (your story, your preferences, specific promises you want to make to one another, what you like about each other, any special elements you want to add, etc.). This ceremony would include more options and suggestions throughout, and we would go through a process of editing, revising, and fine-tuning until you are 100% happy with it. Just like the Signature Ceremony, it includes options for your vows, as well as samples and instructions for writing your own vows.

I hope this helps. Just let us know if you have any more questions!

Do you have any testimonials from couples you have married?

Yes, you can check out hundreds of five-star reviews on WeddingWire, The Knot, Google, and Facebook. We have also published many of those reviews here on our website.

Do you have liability insurance?

Yes, we have a two million dollar liability insurance policy that covers every officiant that works for Love & Wisdom Inc. This is sometimes required by certain venues, but the obvious benefit here is peace of mind.

Do you require a deposit and do you accept online payments?

Yes on both counts. We require a 50% deposit at the time of booking, with the remaining balance due 30 days prior to your wedding date. For bookings placed less than 30 days before the big day, we ask for payment in full upon booking.

We accept all credit and debit cards, payable by convenient and secure online invoices.

What areas do you serve?

Love & Wisdom Inc. serves mostly Western North Carolina, but we also serve the greater Charlotte area, Upstate South Carolina, and some areas in Tennessee and Georgia. Check out our growing list of locations we serve here.